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The Misuse of Therapeutic Terms: Why We Need to Be Careful with Labels

The Misuse of Therapeutic Terms: Why We Need to Be Careful with Labels

Misusing clinical terms doesn’t just dilute their meaning; it can also endanger others. For example, accusing someone of being manipulative or gaslighting without fully understanding the context can escalate conflicts and create unnecessary hostility. This can result in serious social consequences, from strained relationships to workplace discrimination.

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What Does Child Abuse Have To Do With Me?

What Does Child Abuse Have To Do With Me?

It’s Child Abuse Awareness Month.   No one likes to think about child abuse.  So we’re largely silent about it.   Which creates a perfect condition for child abuse to thrive and proliferate.  Because abuse of all kinds thrives in silence and darkness.   And the cost...

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What We’re Really Talking About (Coercive Control)

What We’re Really Talking About (Coercive Control)

October is "Domestic Violence" Awareness Month. I put "domestic violence" in quotation marks because that's an outdated term that emphasizes the physical violence, and misleads us to think it's only happening in domesticity -- such as in a marriage. There's a better...

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How to Spot — and Handle — a Sociopath

How to Spot — and Handle — a Sociopath

This post was originally published on March 2, 2014. Thousands of comments later, I'm still getting emails and calls about it weekly. Given the interest in sociopathy in the news today, I decided to re-publish it here.Ted Bundy. Jeffrey Dahlmer. Danny Rolling. Jim...

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Black Lives Matter. Period.

Black Lives Matter. Period.

Some thoughts on the last few weeks. I’ll make the writing short and the recommendations long for further learning, because my thoughts aren't needed here; we need to listen to the voices of people of color. Trauma needs a witness, and I witness with my feelings...

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Ithaka…and a turn in the journey.

Ithaka…and a turn in the journey.

“Dearly beloved, we have gathered here today to get through this thing called Life.”  — Prince I’m shifting gears from the 3-a-week blogs on poems/pods/books. I’ll keep sharing what I’m leaning into going forward….just not in this same 3x/week form. ...

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